My dearest friend, the sweetest friend money can’t buy.My dearest friend, the sweetest friend money can’t buy. You are the best among the best. I can’t tell you how happy I am that God brought you my way in 2008. You are part of a circle of friends that make my life a whole lot better. I am sure your parents would agree that they are blessed to have a beautiful daughter like you, a bundle so precious beyond words. I know I am blessed to know you.

If I am annoying then ‘my Ella’ is twice annoying but I love her all the same. She is my sister from another mother bringing the total number of sisters I have to four- Chisom, Chinemelum, Amaka and Ella (won’t divulge her native name because she will have my head for that.) you bring me joy beyond words can describe. I think of you and smiles come to my face and I continually thank God for your life.

Even though we don’t see eye-to-eye on issues, you are the best friend of all time. My Ella as I love to call her is a talented person but often doesn’t know it. At times, she acts so insecure that I wish I could just shake her and tell her that she is stronger than she believes. My Ella who was there for me every time I was down; I remember a letter she gave me in 2009, she said I was a star. (I am sure she doesn’t know that I still have the letter but its one of my treasured possessions.)

You will always have a place in my heart and life. I will always have your back, that’s one thing you can be sure of. Our friendship will grow sweeter and better with time. My Ella you are stronger than you believe. You are God’s image and likeness, so everything that you need to succeed is in there. I believe in you and the power of God that is active inside of you.

Since I commend all my friends into the hands of God, you will not be an exception dearest friend.

I ask God to bless you so much that you wonder what you have done to deserve such blessings.

I ask Him to lavish His love on you so that all you can do is to praise His name.

I ask Him to give you grace so that you make the right decisions and never stray from Him.

Because I know you want to marry and I want to marry too, I ask God to give us both good husbands, the ones He has kept for us from the beginning of time and children both male and female to surround our tables. This prayer extends to all my sisters and all those looking for life-partners.

I ask Him to make his word the cornerstone in your life.

I ask Him to make you strong in Him that you may always walk in his paths.

I ask Him to favor you and give you all your good heart desires.

I ask Him to give you understanding, wisdom, joy, and peace that surpass all understanding.

I ask Him finally to be your shield and protector.

Happy birthday my dearest friend and sister.

Hope we can get together and have a blast, if not keep my own cake for me. So now close your eyes, blow out the candles and make a wish.

May you soar far above the eagles’ heights. May you dream dreams, achieve all you set out to achieve, leave footprints in the sands of time, write your name in the hallmark of fame, be a source of blessing to your family and generation, and be all that God has made you to be. You deserve the very best dear and because I know God’s plans for you are for good, you will get the very best.

Happy birthday once again.


I love you plenty. Plenty hugs and kisses from me to you.

May God bless you abundantly.


Say no to insurgency and YES to a peaceful Nigeria.



I have three brothers, two adopted ones and a blood brother {do not let my parents hear that I adopted two brothers who happen to be from the same town abi village as I am and since we cannot marry I am right in adopting them.} I have written about two of my brothers already- Handy and Emmanuel. This post is dedicated to my one and only big brother of my life {Handy is also a big brother but since I am more like a mother to him abi big sister, I don’t count him as a big brother and I am sure he understands perfectly well.} I have digressed enough.


Godslove Obianyo Ezeagwuna, my biggest brother of life, remember when we first met in FUTO sometime in 2010. I bless the day I met you. You know when I first heard your name: Godslove I wondered what kind of name that was. I don’t like all these names like Godslove, Godswill, God’s property and the rest; I prefer the native version of the name like Ifeoluwa and that’s what I call my Godslove or for short Ife mi.

Godslove or GL as is called by everyone who knows him is one of the sweetest and caring people I have been opportune to meet second only to … {I will not reveal the name.} Ife mi and I have had our skirmishes in the past but they have only served to make us stronger.

Ifeoluwa is the exact opposite of my other two brothers. As one of my brothers put it: “GL is happy when others are not, gets angry or sad over nothing compared to other people, is very principled…white is white and black is black, no shades of grey in-between, not very emotional but cares a lot and is dogmatic.” I quite agree with the last part because my Ife is not emotional at all. I do not think I have ever seen him get angry at all or if he does get angry he does not express in a way that I would consider normal for most people.

Ife mi is my extra hardworking life hero. I have seen people with ambitions, dreams, and aspirations but GL beats them all hands down. He has a drive like no other. He knows where he wants to be in future and works towards that plan. My Ife hardly loves but when he does he loves with his whole heart {I do not know if that is a good thing or not but when you are the recipient of such love you cannot complain.} Ife mi is also very down-to-earth and practical.

GL is the biggest brother money cannot buy! I would never exchange the three of you for another. You all complete my life. You bring me so much joy that I am certain God must have been watching out for me when He made our paths cross.

Before I forget, GL is a good dancer but not as good as Handy who is in a class all by himself with the likes of P-square. Ife mi is a very serious minded person but he makes me laugh, we have had some very fun times together.


As you mark your birthday today, silver or gold I have not, all I can do is commend you back into our Father’s hands.

I ask that He may bless you beyond boundaries and make you strong.

I ask that He may make His words a part of your life.

I ask for long life and prosperity for you.

I ask Him for His grace and Spirit so that you may never stray away from Him.

I ask Him to continue to lavish His love and mercy on you.

I ask Him for the best wife for you and for my remaining brothers, you guys deserve the very best.

Finally, I ask Him to give you peace that surpasses all understanding.

May you soar far above the eagles’ heights. May you dream dreams, achieve all you set out to achieve, leave footprints in the sands of time, write your name in the hallmark of fame, be a source of blessing to your family and generation, and be all that God has made you to be.

It will not be easy, there will be tough times ahead, trials and temptations but I am trusting God that He will be with you each step of the way only if you allow Him.

I love you, I love you, and I love you my biggest brother of all time. If they ask all those that have sisters to raise their hands, I am sure you will raise your hands.

Happy birthday dearest brother!

Keep my own cake for me oh.

From your friends and family we wish you the best of today and always.

May God bless you abundantly.


Say no to insurgency and YES to a peaceful Nigeria.





Hmmmmm! Emmanuel Onyebuchi Albert Duru, my one time love (do not let him hear I called him that, but he sures knows he has a special place in my heart). Out of all the friends I have, you are the only one I can remember when and where we first met – 22nd December 2009 at Ivory hostel Owerrri. You came into my life and changed it for the better. Remember those times when we used to hang out together and laugh and all the numerous mid-night calls I put you through (I cannot remember all we must have discussed.) You were the subject of my numerous writings (do not worry you will get to read them some day.)

Just in case you did not know, what attracted me to him made me want to know him better was and is still his craziness (but he is much calmer now). You know that bad boy swag, that confidence that looks so effortless, that look in their eyes that says you are the only one for me,  that smile that melts your heart and the charm that sweeps you off your feet. We good girls {I would surely win the award for miss prim and proper} like the bad guys, the unattainable, they usually add the spice that we lack in our sometimes boring life (not that I live a boring life, I am enjoying my life the way it is but it could do with a burst of energy.)

I look back and think about all the things I would always remember and love about you and the first thing that comes to mind is that I would always remember how you made me laugh and how the mere thought of you was enough to bring smiles to my face. You gave me the first exotic taste of love and I will always remember how glad I am that you are my friend. My Dearie as I always call you, you will always have a special place in my heart. The one person I could always call and talk ‘silly’ with.

God was surely watching out for your family and us your friends some twenty-something years ago (don’t worry I won’t reveal your age) when He sent a precious bundle into our lives. I bless the day God sent you into my life and I wonder how you managed to put up with me considering the fact that I was pretty annoying and stubborn. (You know I am a nice, warm, caring person underneath the whole wahala I like giving but life would be dull if I do not disturb and act all annoying, you get my drift abi.)

My Dearie is one ambitious and hard working fellow that I know and I know you will go places. My Dearie likes to play the ‘macho’ man act but under that whole gruff exterior is a vulnerable side that hardly surfaces but suffices to say, he is an emotional one. I am eternally grateful that you came into my life when you did. Our friendship has survived a lot of ups and downs, we have come out stronger, and I believe our friendship will always last forever and like fine wine, it only gets better with time. The one whom I never get tired of talking to, the one who does not allow me get away with everything.

Therefore, as you add one more year to your age, may you age gracefully. I cannot think of anything better than to commend you into our father’s hands.

I ask Him to bless you beyond measure and boundaries.

I ask Him to make His word the stronghold of your life.

I ask Him to give you grace to excel beyond your contemporaries.

I ask Him to favor you and give you His Spirit that you may never stray away from Him.

I ask Him to lavish His love on you and draw you closer to himself.

I ask Him for the best wife for you and children to surround your table.

I ask Him to give you joy and peace beyond all understanding.

May you have all you have ever desired, may God’s plans for you come to pass. May He change your sadness into a joyful dance, take away sorrow from you, and surround you with joy. May you soar far above the eagles’ height, touch lives in your generation, write your name in the hallmark of fame, and be all that God has destined you to be.

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Happy birthday my Dearie. Bigger you I pray.

May this new age be the start of something new and better in your life.

Heartfelt wishes from your friends and family.

I love you my Dearie. Plenty hugs and kisses from me to you.

Now close your eyes, blow out the candles, and make a wish. You deserve the very best. Keep my own cake for me oh.

Happy birthday dearest one.


May God bless you Abundantly.


Say no to insurgency and YES to a peaceful Nigeria.





A lot of articles, poems, papers and write-ups have been written and published on the need of staying hopeful and never giving up. At times we face situations where it feels like all hope is lost, like there is no need to bother trying, no need to move forward but it at those trying times that we need not give up.

Sin is something we continually deal with everyday. It might be something as ‘small’ as telling a white lie, cheating, pride, boasting, anger, disobedience or something as ‘big’ as murder, fornication, adultery, stealing, masturbation, pornography, corruption or any other besetting sin.

It might seem as if you have prayed about that particular sin(s) so many times but find yourself drawing back to the same old sin. It might be that you have confessed that sin countless number of times and surrendered your life to God that you wonder if God really hears you at all or it might be that you have decided in your heart to stop a particular sinful habit only to see yourself crawling right into that pit of sin again. It might look as if God has abandoned you to yourself and at the mercy of the devil or that He no longer cares what you do.

But the truth remains that God sees everything, He knows everything and that He seems silent doesn’t means He is not working out something for your good or he doesn’t hear you.

Do not give up! You can break out from the devil’s grasp. You can have your life back. You can say not to sin and all it attendant effects. Most times sin looks for hiding places, those areas of weakness that only we know about; those sins that we often think no one knows about since they are often committed in secret.

Will it be hard to break out?

Trust me, it will be harder than anything you have ever done (I have been down that road too many times to count). But trust that God will be with you each step of the way as long as you acknowledge you cannot do it alone. We are often fooled into believing that we can give up a particular sin all by ourselves, all we need do is to firmly decide in our hearts to do so. Firm decision won’t help us; it is only by God’s grace and mercy that sin is overcome.

Never give up even if it feels like you are making one step forward and ten steps backward (the devil isn’t happy that he is losing you). So press forward, your eyes ever focused on the crown.

I am a catholic and confession times can be pretty hard. It is funny how easy it is commit a sin in private and enjoy the sin and when it comes to confessing the sin, the whole shame and regret comes pouring out to the forefront. I ask myself: ‘how can I tell the priest I did this or that? How would he look at me?’ but I didn’t think of that when the act was been committed. That is how it is with us humans; wrong doings, sin is often enjoyable when being committed but we forget that God watches us, He sees what we do, we do not bother to think of how we would look before His eyes and how shameful it would be to confess to Him all the things we have done wrong.

The idle mind abi hand is the devil’s workshop. Idleness gives room for a lot of things to crop up, it allows for time to commit a whole lot of sins you would rather not have committed if you were busy at some productive venture. Whatever you feed your mind is what your mind will grow on. You cannot feed your mind pornography and not expect it to result in either masturbation or fornication. Sin begets sin. I read somewhere that it is often necessary to think about what you are thinking about. What are your thoughts often centered on? We are in the era of making quick cash (which could lead to stealing or blood rituals), getting married while our mates are getting married too, getting a promotion at all cost because you deem it fit to be yours and there is no place for God in the whole scheme. Once God is not involved, every other thing is a total waste of time.

God should be at the helm of every of our affairs. His ways and words should be the measure by which we judge our own actions.

When the devil pulls us towards sin, we need not go far but remember the sacrifice of the cross and all it meant. At the cross, Christ said: ‘it is finished’ putting to an end all sins, nailing to himself all our iniquities. So next time when the devil tells you that it is impossible for you to give up a particular sinful habit and you see yourself sliding into habits of old, never give up. Remind the devil that there is nothing impossible for God to do.

Remember that it is in our weakness that God’s strength is made manifest. His grace is more than sufficient. His grace is all you need. God is watching out for you, so never ever give up.


Say no to insurgency and Yes to a peaceful Nigeria.


I have become used to saying sorry that they no longer sound sincere in my ears but really I am sorry and I hope to do better. I am so happy, this is my 100th post on the blog. We can only keep on getting better. So that said, dig in.

There is a reason why you are alive today.

There is a reason why you are not dead.

There is a reason why you are not among the numerous thousands who have lost their lives in earthquakes, plane crashes, tsunamis, wars, bomb attacks, accidents of all kinds and the likes.

There is a reason why God still looks up on you each day with mercy and allows you to have breath.

There is a reason why you are where you are now.

There is a reason why are in that particular situation, born into that family.

There is a reason why you are created.

However, most of us go through life without finding or attempting to find out that reason. We make a colossal failure of ourselves and give silly excuses in my opinion for not being more, for not doing more, for letting things slide. I am part of that crowd who has forgotten the reason for their existence. The reason for your marvelously wonderful existence today is not because you have not bought a house, gotten married, had kids, got your dream job and dream car or the numerous reasons we like to tell ourselves.

The first, singular and most important reason why we are still alive today is because we were created to serve Him who created us but most of us have lost sight of that in the fanfare and ceremonies that make up part of daily lives. We have been embedded with numerous gifts and talents to be used in the service of our King and Master but most of us don’t find theirs, some deny theirs, some take it for granted and some are not even bothered about theirs.

Of late, I have not even bothered to write giving the excuse that I needed inspiration. I have not even felt the urge to blog even though I have articles to post and I have been online every day. I have not even take out time to look for ways to hone my talent or better myself but today was a reminder that that gift I have so often taken for granted and as my due was given so that I could serve better.

As we draw closer to the end of the year, it is time to take a seat and look back at the whole year and at our whole lives too. it is time for stock taking. It is time to ask salient questions; like how well have we have fulfilled the reason for our existence, how well we have lived our lives in service for our creator. Psalms 90: 12 says; ‘Teach us how our short our life is, that we may become wise. Life is too short to go through it without knowing or fulfilling the reason why you have not been snatched by the cold hands of death and be sure that death does not give notice.

Yea, we want to get married, have kids, and buy cars and houses. I too want that but that is not the reason why you are still breathing, moving, and living. Every day of our lives should be a continuous search for truer understanding as to the reason for our creation and when that reason becomes clearer may we like Mary say: “I am the handmaid of the Lord, let it be done to me according to your will. May we be so open that we find the true reason, fulfill it, and use our gifts and talents in the fulfillment of service to God.

So as we draw open the curtains of the new month, I am asking you to take a good look at your life and find out why you are alive today, at this moment. There is a reason.


Happy New Month!

Say no to insurgency and Yes to a peaceful Nigeria.