Handy Eze Romeo

It has been a long while since I did a ‘human being’ post scratch that, I meant a post about ‘someone’. Yes, this post is about this crazy, annoying, stubborn, and argumentative guy who means a whole lot to me.
Hmmmmm I remember when I first met him and maybe I did have a little crush on him but I am past that now, I feel my maternal instincts kick in whenever it has anything to do with him. We are no blood relations but he is my brother from another mother. You won’t believe that we cannot get married (oh I didn’t say, we are from the same town and quarter but village traditions say we cannot marry because one of our village is the younger brother to the other. I do not know which but in my opinion that is trash {do not tell my village elders that I said that} but then I cannot fight tradition, I am no super strong tough lady like I like to think.)
Just in case you did not know, what attracted me to him made me want to know him better was and is still his craziness. You know that bad boy swag, that confidence that looks so effortless, that smile that melts your heart and the charm that sweeps you off your feet. We good girls {I would surely win the award for miss prim and proper} like the bad guys, the unattainable, they usually add the spice that we lack in our sometimes boring life (not that I live a boring life, I am enjoying my life the way it is but it could do with a burst of energy.)
I am digressing a bit, so enough of me back to Handy. Remember when I first heard the name ’HANDY’; I thought what an unusual name. I am like did his parents actually give him the name (He has a wonderful native name but I am certain he would not want me to tell you guys) and when I ask him what’s the meaning of the name and he says it meant ‘useful’. It was at that moment that it occurred to me that I knew that word; it was part of my register. I decided to get a little help from the dictionary and it defines the word ‘Handy’ in three different ways. I am going to compare them a little to my wonderful ‘auta’ (just in case you were wondering what ‘auta’ means, it’s the Hausa word for ‘last born’ and that’s what I call my Handy, so in case I have murdered the spelling, please pardon me.)
So first, it means ‘useful’ and yea right, ‘my auta’ was right. Hmmmmm so comparing them now seems a bit harder than I first imagined but I am going to man up, yes I am equal to the task. So yes, Handy is very useful. He is one of the most hardworking people I have met, not one to shy away from responsibilities and that comes in very useful especially when you happen to be the last in a big household. He does stuffs and doesn’t really expect thanks in return.
Second, the word Handy means; “near and easy to reach.” Another hmmmmm, ‘my auta’ is so down to earth and easy to reach and talk to. He has a magnetic personality; you just want to get to know him. With him, there are no pretensions; he is just as he is. He is simple (did I just say simple, this ‘my auta’ is a complex biochemical algorithm, I do not even know the meaning of that, I just picked it up from a movie). At times, I do not understand him but then I do not understand myself either but in some ways he really is a simple person.
Thirdly, the word Handy means ‘good at using something’. Handy is good with his brain but I wish he could put it to more productive use than sparring (he is so going to have my head for this but darling you know I mean it in a good way). He is also good with his hands that is why he was able to read such a demanding course as industrial physics or just physics (sweet whichever one you like you can call it) and he gives exquisite massages (do not ask me how I know, I won’t reveal my source, just take my word for it.)
Also my Handy, ‘my auta’ is an accomplished dancer second only to the King of Pop himself (okay may be I am exaggerating it just a bit but you get the gist sha , he is in the same class as P-Square. I can say this because I have watched him dance countless times and there is a seamless harmony in the dance, it is as if the dance comes from his core and it has become infused with his own self. You feel the energy and the burst of life and happiness that comes from dancing from within.)
Hmmmmm, ‘my auta’ does not know the meaning of the word “patience”, it really isn’t his strong suit but somehow he needs to learn that if he will be well equipped to face life with all its challenges and trials. My Handy loves sparring with people (I wonder what he enjoys in arguing with others.) He is also an expert in laying a guilt trip on people and knows which buttons and strings to pluck and at the risk of having my head bitten off, my ‘auta’ can be a big baby at times. Baby I think you should ease up on the guilt tripping stuff (just saying).
My handy, my ‘auta’ is imperfect, flawed and he loves to be right and in control but he is learning that it’s all right to be wrong, it saves a lot of trouble to accept that you are wrong and apologize for your mistakes. He is learning to loosen the reins and know when to step back and lets others run the stage. He is learning to give others a chance in his life and to allow God to be at the helm of affairs. He is learning to drop some of his habits (not telling you which but my ‘auta’ knows what I am talking about.)
All in all, my ‘auta’ is one amazing and remarkable person who has been through a lot in his life (I should know because we are both sounding boards to each other) and with that has come compassion for others that is only born out of experience.
I hope and pray that you soar far above the eagles’ height; that you find joy, happiness, and laughter to make up for all the lost years. I hope you achieve all you ever wanted to achieve, leave legacies behind, write your name in the hallmark of fame, leave lasting footprints behind, touch lives, and above all be who God has destined you to be, His own Image.
As usual;
Be good!
Be safe!
Be careful!
I love you from here to the moon and back. I have got your back always and you know you can count on me but above all God loves you in more ways than you can ever imagine and His plans for you are for good.

Here is ‘my auta’ and I.

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