I know I am still on sabbatical but i just had to share this piece with you, hope you love it. For those who miss me I will be back sometime next week.



God’s word is on my lips.. His word is in my heart… – Dami

Like a freckled shepherd boy clinging to a sling and with stones in his hand I walk to the giant… Fearless because I know that Elyon is with me. Hey guys! I am really enjoying the Haven of Love that God has provided me and I pretty certain that she (my Eve, my Ecclesia) will soon be here. So first, join me as I slay the giant.

For: Victoria

Can you hear the rattling of metal?

Courage pale like wilting petals

Can you smell fear like rotten eggs?

See the horror, faces filled with dread

Can you see the giant tall and fierce?

Covered with venomous steel as his dress

Can you hear his toxic, noxious ranting?

Listen to his army sing, hear their chanting

Where is the God of the Jew?

Tell me…

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This is going to be long but I just want to conclude this post so I know that I owe you nothing but the best of new posts when I get back.


Fifth, love is not happy with evil but is happy with the truth. I do not need to go into long stories. Speak the truth oh, it will set you free. If you are unhappy with the way your spouse behaves, tell it to their face. Do not harbor anger in your heart. Do not pretend all is well when it is obvious to a blind person that that’s a lie. Tell the truth about things, do not gloss over events. Once you start telling lies to your partner, you start spinning a web of troubles for yourself and one day you will get caught in your own web. Lies crumbles a relationship, it destroys the trust in that marriage. Trust is like glass, very easy to break; difficult to mend and the patches always show. The dictionary defines an evil person as someone who deliberately does very cruel things to harm other people. Love is not cruel. Love does not seek to harm your spouse or partner with either your words or actions.

Sixth, Love never gives up; and its faith, hope and patience never fail. I am not going to discuss this at all except to say this, do not give up on your partner or on that marriage. Every marriage will go through its difficult times but if you persevere, have faith, believe, trust and be patient, things will sort themselves out in due time as they surely will do.

Finally, Love is eternal. Eternal is continuing forever and having no end. Love has no end. Psalms 136 vs. 1 says that: ‘Give thanks to the Lord, because he is good; his love is eternal. The same way God’s love for mankind is eternal and in another version of the bible it says His love endures forever, so should our love be; in good times and in bad; in times when things are not working well; times when we feel like the marriage isn’t moving as it should be, those are the times when our love should be at its strongest. The greatest of all the virtues is love as it says in John 3: 16: ‘For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life and in John 17: 3 it says: ‘and eternal life means to know you, the only true God, and to know Jesus Christ, whom you sent’.

You cannot give what you do not have. If you do not have love, you cannot give out love in return and we have a perfect example in Christ all you have to do is invite Him and ask him to teach you how to love. When it comes to love, you need not fall but surrender, surrender to the idea that you must love yourself before you can love another, you must absolutely trust yourself before you can absolutely trust another and most importantly you must accept your flaws before you can accept the flaws of another. No one is without their faults and it will do you well to keep that in mind, there is no perfect human, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, we all strive towards perfection. The great secret of successful marriage is to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters. Love is not conditional. It’s not a situation where by you tell your partner that you will continue to love them as long as they behave well or for as long as they give you enough male children (for the men) or as long as they provide for you(for the women). True love is a total giving of ourselves to another not because of what the other can offer, not because of what we can get from the other but because of the satisfaction derived from being able to give our all without any form of reservation. Ephesians 5 vs. 21 – 33 talks about wives and husbands but I will only bring out some parts.


In verse 21 it says: ‘Submit yourselves to another because of your reverence to Christ.’

In verse 22 and 23 it says: ‘Wives submit yourselves to your husband as to the lord. For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the savior of the church, His body.’

In verse 24 it says: ‘Husbands; love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.’

Finally in verse 33, it says: ‘but it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself and every wife must respect her husband.

In God’s ordained marriage, love shortens the day, love shortens the journey, love lifts the burden, love lights the pathway, with love all things are possible and long waiting passes quickly where love holds the torch and shows the way. Love, love, love, the issue cannot be overemphasized; it is essential in our relationships with one another, spouses, friends, children, family and even God. Love is the very essence of our existence. Out of love we were created, out of love Christ died for us. I also love this prayer by Paul in Ephesians 3: 17 and 18: “and I pray that Christ will make his home in your hearts through faith. I pray that you may have your roots and foundation in love, so that you, together with all God’s people, may have the power to understand how broad and long, how high and deep, is Christ’s love.” Let me add my own prayer may Christ make his home in your marriage, in your family and may the foundation of your marriage be firmly rooted in love and may you come to the full knowledge that God is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of. Learn to pray for your partner and involve God in everything that you both. Marriage takes three to be complete, it’s not enough for two to meet they must be united in love by love’s creator, God above.

To all married people, it’s a clarion call to retrace your steps. To all those looking forward to enter that sacred covenant, I hope it helps you to have a foundation on which to build your marriage upon. St. John Chrysostom suggests that young husbands should say to their wives: ‘I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us… I place your love above all things, and nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you.’ St. John suggests to young husbands; I am suggesting to both young and old, to both husbands and wives; tell your partner each day that you love them and let them know how blessed you are to be with them. John 13: 34 says: “and now I give you a new commandment: love another. As I have loved you, so you must love for another.” Should I translate it for you? If you call yourself a Christian to love is by force, it says you MUST LOVE one another as Christ loves you.

Finally, what GOD has joined together, let no man put asunder!!! Let me say it again: “what God has bonded together in a sacred covenant with that cord called love, do not break.” Third parties beware!!!

Finally I am off. God bless you all !!!


Yipee this is my 50th post on this blog and I just decided to post another part of the post. Do not mind the conflicting messages. I just want to see if I can post on the concluding parts of this post.

Third, love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable. I don’t even know where to start from on this one. Let me reiterate it: Love is not ill-mannered, selfish or irritable. Simply put love is not concerned mainly with one’s own needs or wishes; love does not get easily angered or annoyed and love behaves in the right way. So when you deviate from this you know that you do not love your partner or spouse the way God wants you to do so. Yes you are having problems with your spouse but it doesn’t give you the right to insult your partner in public, disrespect them or call them names in front of other people and little by little destroy every shred of dignity left in them. The power to build up or to destroy lies in your tongue. Are you building up or destroying your family or marriage with what you say. That is not love. To love means to give without counting the cost and thinking of what you will get in return, it means to take into cognizance your partner’s desires before yours, to treat your spouse with respect and the way you would want to be treated. Love should teach you how to hold your tongue, to curb your temper and rein in your anger.

Fourth, love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. I just love this one. The parasite that eats deep into our relationships with one another, our spouse, our children, our friends, our family, other people and even God is our inability to forgive and forget. You might be wondering what you need to forgive God of; most times we hold a grudge against God because he does not grant us our heart desires. Forgiveness is not something we do for other people, we do it for ourselves to get well and move on. I read somewhere that: “he that cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass, if he would ever reach heaven, for everyone has a need to be forgiven.” To forgive means to let go of the wrongs and pain. Henryward Beecher says I can forgive but I cannot forget is only another way of saying I cannot forgive. Love is the essence of the spirit. Love is the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. Forgiveness is the bridge that binds us to heaven. Without these two we would be nowhere. Every one of us knows this prayer from Matthew 6: 9 – 14:

‘This, then is how you should pray: “Our father in heaven: May your holy name be honored; may your kingdom come; may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today the food we need. Forgive us the wrongs we have done as we forgive the wrongs others have done to us. Do not bring us to hard testing, but keep us safe from the Evil One.” If you forgive others the wrong they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.’

When we say this prayer, we implicate ourselves. We tell God if I do not forgive my spouse, my friends and families; do not forgive me. Obviously we pray this prayer without fully understanding the words we say. It goes further to say that if you forgive others, God will forgive you but if you don’t, God will treat you in the same manner. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. Choose to forgive and let go of the wrongs today; no need for storing them up in your heart until one day that love you once felt becomes hatred. Hate is like a burning charcoal. It burns the one who holds it with the intention to throw it, as much as the one who catches it with the intention to pitch it back. Simply put you gain NOTHING from keeping a record of wrongs, you only cause problems for yourself and destroy your relationships.love!!!


I know that I said that the former post would be the last post for a while but I just want to share this second post on love in marriage with you. I am just taking two of these qualities. Stay tuned for the remaining posts.


I just love this passage and I will take each of the qualities of love one by one and dissect them.(check out the passage in the first post on love in marriage but just in case its 1st Corinthians13:4-8

First, Love is patient and kind. Let’s take a look at what patience is. It is the power to see things through to its completion even under pressure and in spite of hindrances. It allows you to appreciate other people for what they are. (I love reading so you would have to bear with me because I will be dishing out little stuffs I have read.) I read somewhere and I copied it down a long time ago that Patience is the capacity to realize that all conditions and situations are only temporary, if you exercise forbearance and remain calm and cool the most trying situations will right themselves in no time. No marriage can work if the two parties are not patient with each other. We often at times forget that we are married to a unique being, a once-in-a-lifetime, never-before-on-earth, never-to-be-again, personality as Ruth Vaughn puts it and once we understand the importance of that we would know that each person is different from the other, we would not expect them to bend to our will but encourage them to be who God has made them to be; we would be more patient with each other’s quirks and eccentricities and be less criticizing of what we might term as their flaws. Kindness means to be considerate and generous. To be considerate means to be thoughtful, to take account of the other person’s feelings before you act, to place your partner’s desires before yours. I read somewhere that it’s not the gift that matters but the thought behind the gift that counts. We think love is about doing extraordinary things but it’s often the little things that we term as inconsequential that matter in the long run. Little things such as buying gifts without having a reason to do so, it can be just calling the partner to know how he or she is doing. We must be generous with not just our money but with our time. Yes the economy is harsh; we need to make money to keep the kids in school but without communication and the act of spending time with one another, that marriage is soon headed for the ruins.

Second, love is not jealous, conceited or proud. I just went through the dictionary and its rates jealousy as being envious, resentful and overly possessive of one’s possessions. People are not possessions to be owned and the same goes for your partner. Most times we are envious of our partners because they earn higher pays than we do, we resent them for the time they spend with friends and family and try to curtail such movements. Conceit is to have excessive pride in oneself and this goes hand in hand with being proud. These three words must never be far from our vocabulary: thanks, please and sorry. We often times fail to say thanks to our partners for favors done but take it as our due, the same go for the please and worst of all is our inability to say sorry when we offend our partner all due to some misplaced pride. That little five-letter word ‘sorry’ can solve a lot of problems. We often go to bed angry with our partners and make mountains of mere molehills when the bible commends us never to let the sun go down on our anger. Watch what you say when you are angry because a few words spoken in anger can quickly destroy a long lasting marriage or relationship for no matter how sorry you are thereafter, the memory of your barbed remarks may leave a lasting scar. We allow little problems that would have been solved with a little sorry to fester into a huge battle and then we sweep things and pretend all is well, when we know for a fact that is a lie.

Stay blessed and please do not miss me too much. Please drop your comments and you can send your mails too. You all are the best.


This is going to be the last post for the next couple of weeks. I am going on a sabbatical for a couple of weeks. I have a backlog of work to be done and I want to concentrate on just writing and typing up the already written ones (I prefer to write the old fashioned way with pen and paper). Do not miss me too much because I will miss you even more. I know I owe you all the completing posts on “love in marriage” but it will have to wait till I come back from the sabbatical.

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Do you know you are the apple of God’s eyes, the image and likeness of God, the child whom He loves perfectly and the reason for Christ’s death? You are meant to be the master over your situations, they should not get you down or defeated. You are meant to overcome whatever life throws at you. God has empowered you with everything essential to be in control of your life and its challenges. God is your father; you are supposed to walk like someone in power in power, a person with authority (Walk with swag, don’t you know your Father is the King).

Actions they say speaks louder than words (your words are important too) so your actions should exude great power and confidence in the One who has endowed you. Your words also should speak volumes about who you are. God said that the expectations of the righteous shall not be cut short and He also said that you should speak the word and it shall come to pass and you are to speak the word with faith. When you look in the mirror who do you see a failure or a success? Tell yourself this everyday and mean it: “I know who I am. I will make it despite the odds. I am a winner not a loser; the head and not the tail, a victor and not a victim, on top and not beneath.”

God says in 3John1:2: ‘Beloved, I wish above all things that thou may prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospers.’ (He calls you beloved, can you imagine the extent of His love). When things are not going the way you want it to go or the way it should go, whose report will you listen to and accept; the report of God who has said above all He wants you to prosper or the report of others who only want your downfall and fill you up with negativity. Do you live in fear and oppression or do you with courage face life head on? You are a slave to whatever you fear and in Galatians 5:1 it says: “Freedom is what we have- Christ has set us free! Stand, then, as free people and do not allow yourselves to become slaves again.” There is nothing like a trouble-free life (don’t even think it is possible, because you are a Christian doesn’t mean that you won’t have challenges oh) but because you are the child of the Almighty father you can call on Him in the day of trouble and trust that He will answer you.

You are the child of a King! You are strong enough to overcome anything!! You are a mobile carrier of God’s power and Glory, reflect that power!!! Stand out.Dare to be different. Walk in dominion for God has given you authority to subdue the earth!!!

Stay blessed and keep away from all forms of trouble. I love you all but you already know God loves you much more than I can ever do.


I was thinking of how to start this letter considering the fact that I am not God and I found this letter (yea I have permission to share with you all). It contains everything I believe God would say if we could actually get a letter from Him and I could not think of anything else to add. This post and letter is dedicated to all those who sent in their letters, thanks for contributing to this series. May God reward you all bountifully!!!


My Child,

You may not know me, but I know everything about you.
Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways.
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image.
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book.
Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live.
Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother’s womb.
Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.
Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me.
John 8:41-44

I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love.
1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.
1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child and I am your Father.

1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.
Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.
Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.
James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.
Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3

My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore.
Psalms 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.
Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.
Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul.
Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.
Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me.
Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.
Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you.
Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart.
Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes.
Revelation 21:3-4

And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth.
Revelation 21:3-4

I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus.
John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.
John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.
Hebrews 1:3

He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you.
Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you.
1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love.
Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me.
1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you from my love again.
Romans 8:38-39

Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen.
Luke 15:7

I have always been Father, and will always be Father.
Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is…Will you be my child?
John 1:12-13

I am waiting for you.
Luke 15:11-32

Love, Your Dad
Almighty God.

Father’s Love Letter used by permission Father Heart Communications
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Have a blessed week and do not forget to pray for your country. Say no to insurgency and say Yes to a peaceful Nigeria.


This letter is written by someone who has decided to remain anonymous. We all have our own demons that we fight each day and I pray that God in His infinite goodness will strengthen us. Moreover He has said that His grace is sufficient. I will still be posting the love letter from God tomorrow to conclude the series of letters to God. You can still send your letters to helenchels@yahoo.com and I might be tempted to start another series (that is if i get a massive response) Now to the letter.

letters to God

Dearest Father,

I am tired of carrying this burden inside me. My life is upside down. I try to fight this demon inside but sometimes I just can’t seem to fight any longer. I know that what I do is wrong and that I offend not just God but myself and its annoying that I keep saying sorry for the same sins, I keep sliding back into the habits of old. This road I am on is going to lead to my destruction and if I don’t leave it sooner or later I am going to regret it. But I am tired of fighting what seems like a lost battle, I am tired of offending you Lord. I am tired of sinning against my own body and now I come before you and I ask heaven to hear me now. I drop all the urges and desires at the foot of the cross. I have no one else and I look to you for help to conquer this dreadful sin. I am losing heaven with the way I am going, but I trust in your saving help.

Forgive me Lord, melt this hard heart of mine, and drive far away from me the desire to indulge in the excesses of the flesh. Put a new heart in me, give me your grace to stand firm in the midst of temptations and do not let love or its other derivatives cause me to displease you. Keep me strong in this resolution. May I do your will oh Lord. See deep down into my heart and know how truly sorry I am. I know that most often than not I ignore your voice, I do not heed to the warnings of your spirit, but this time I want to hear you speak clearly to me. I want to see a vision of heaven and hell. I want this day to be a turning point for me, I want to look back at this day and know that I surrendered totally to you Lord. I want this day to be the day I decided not on the urgings of others but out of a true desire to please you, to say no the devil and his works. Let the fear of hell not be the reason for my serving you but may love direct everything I do. Let me get over this way of life and fully live for you.

I also want to thank you for the gift of my life and also for sending your son Jesus Christ to pay the price for my sins. I am grateful for my family and for all the numerous blessings that You shower on us every day. I really do hope that you read my letter and you send me a reply.

Your child,


Its the start of a brand new working week. May God order your footsteps this week. God bless you all and don’t forget to drop your comments (they help me grow and serve you better). Finally please please pray for our country. Say no to insurgency and Yes to a peaceful Nigeria.